Saturday, July 17, 2010

Plane Tickets and Moving Boxes

Good Morning everyone. I want to say that it is truly official Con and myself have bought our tickets and the moving company came to the apartment to have us sign the contract.

Lets start with the travel agent first because we got the tickets first. We went to our regular travel agent that we use when we have travel needs we cant handle ourselves. So since we were buying 1 one way ticket and 1 round trip ticket it would be best to go to her instead of trying to getting it through yahoo or expedia. The wait was quite long even though we were the only people physically in the place but i guess she had a back up of calls that she had to deal not a problem to be honest it was to be expected. We are finally at her desk and giving her the dates that we want and she is looking them up in the computer. We wanted to fly out of Phoenix on the 15th of October however they didn't have any flights . Therefore we settled on the 20th of October, which is one day before my mother's birthday. I didn't even think of that until my mother brought it to my attention when i told her the new date of our departure. Now here come the more interesting part that I was not aware of until we bought the tickets. Since I am traveling on a tourist visa i can only stay in Brazil for 90 days at a time and a total of 6 months out of they year. Now this has come to a total shock to me. If I knew this was going to be case I think I would have made other arrangement. I am not sure what those other arrangement's would have been but like I said really don't want to be away from Con that long. As right not it stands that I have two options. One is get a working visa through an English school or go back and forth from Brazil to USA.

Now lets move on to the easier issues to deal with and that is the moving company. They came on 16-Jul, 2010 They assessed what we have on our apartment and they told us it is going to cost 5,700.00 dollars to move all of things down. This is of course not including any insurance that we may want to put on any of the items that we are sending down. They will be bringing all of the boxes and tape and packing material that we need next week. We will have to get everything ready for them to put into the container by Sept 1, 2010 Exciting times I must say but also a nervousness is going through my body. To talk about moving down there and everything great in theory. However now its time to stop talking and start moving. Don't get me wrong it is still great and very excited to be moving down but with everything in life there are always the what ifs. I just need to sit back relax and tell myself everything is going to be ok and that we are moving in a positive direction to better our lives.

Straight Americans need... an education of the heart and soul. They must understand - to begin with - how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul. ~Bruce Bawer, The Advocate, 28 April 1998

Americanos retos necessitam... uma educação do coração e alma. Devem entender - começar com - como pode sentir-se gastar anos negando o próprias verdades mais profundas, sentar-se silenciosamente por classes, refeições, e serviços de igreja enquanto as pessoas que você ama arremesso fora observações que brutalizam sua alma. ~ Bruce Bawer, O Defensor, 28 abril 1998

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Language Barrier

I have just gotten done with my Portugese lesson for the day and in about 4 months that is all I am going to be hearing. Not only will I have to hear what other people are saying, but I am going to have to take what they say put it into my brain and comprehend what they are saying. After that I then have to formulate an intelligent answer and then resite it back to them in Portugese. This is probably one of the most difficult adjustments that I will have to go through. I have taken one on one classes but i truly feel as if i got the most minimal exposure from that experience. Con is great he is always helpful when ever i ask him to translate or how to say a word. However he is not going to be by myside all the time nor should he have to be.

I went to Brazil last year for a two week vacation. Con wanted me see how the country and more importantly his hometown was and to see if this is somewhere I could live. Well I went and it is a beautiful town. I really didn't feel a difference from being in the states where i grew up. The one thing I will never forget in my life was the transfer in Sao Paulo to catch the connecting flight into Rio. Trying to navigate my way around the airport with out knowing any portugese and by myself was one of the most stressful and lonesome feeling I have ever felt in my life and would not want to wish that on anyone. When I got back to the USA I was talking to Con about how I truly had a much greater respect for him and anyone else coming to the USA and not being able to speak our language.

I know that in the begining Con will be with me and he will have to translate for me, but as times goes by we will both have to go to work and we wont be spending every second of the day together. Not only that If I want to go just go to the store and buy a few things or even just taking a walk; I would want to be able to go without hesitation and not worried if someone is going to come up to me and ask me a quetion. Of course I know how to say I dont speak Portugese but that is not how I want to live.

It is funny thing, I have this reoccuring dream that I have been in Brazil for sometime now and I come back to the US to visit my folks. We are having a conversation and without me even knowing it I am speaking to them in Portugese. I pause for a moment becuase they are looking at me funny and not saying a word which is very unusual for my mother. I then realized that I was not speaking English to them. That is where I wake up.

On that note althought it is going to be a lengthy process I will master the language and it will become so natural to me that i wont even relize I am speaking it even in America. UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN....

****The most successful marriages, gay or straight, even if they begin in romantic love, often become friendships. It's the ones that become the friendships that last.”
---Andrew Sullivan

***Os matrimônios mais bem sucedidos, alegres ou diretos, mesmo se eles começarem no amor romântico, muitas vezes tornam-se amizades. São aqueles que se tornam as amizades isto dura.”
---Andrew Sullivan

Thursday, June 17, 2010

American Viajante History

With all of the Blogs out there covering the infinite number of topics, does the world really need this blog. I am not so sure the world needs it, but I really feel like I have and will continue to have a great story to tell. There are a great many stories that tell how people have come to the United States and are living the "American Dream". My story will be a little different as I am moving from the United States to Brazil. I am sure many of the people who read this or at least my mother who will hopefully read it, is going to ask themsleves why on earth would anyone want to move to of all places, Brazil. If you would have told me over 4 and a half years ago I would be moving to Brazil, I would have told you that you were crazy. However just under 4.5 years ago I met the man who would become my husband. That is right I met my husband on Christmas. He has been the best Christmas gift i have ever gotten. He is from Teresopolis, which is considered to be a small town in Brazil with the population of 138,081 people. Due to circumstances beyond my control, Con has to go back to Brazil to take care of those matters. I know there are many options that we could have taken but in my heart I only had three options. First option was we could break up and he could go back to Brazil and live is his life and I could stay here and live mine. Well if you find someone as special as Con you don't just let him or her slip out your life so easily. Second option would be he could go down to Brazil and I could stay up here and we could do the long distance thing. NO THANK YOU. I have done it before and it never works out. I don't care what anyone says distance doesn't make the heart grow fonder. The third and last option was to move down with to Brazil and live our lives together down there. To me the third option was the only viable option there was. So therefor on October 15, 2010 I will be getting on a plane with my husband to start a New Chapter in our lives. So from time to time I will be coming here just to let my friends, family, and the entire world know what is going on with me and what is going on in my mind. UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN....
**Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.
---Benjamin Disraeli
**Nunca peça desculpa por mostrar a sensação. Quando você faz assim, você pede desculpa pela verdade.
---Benjamin Disraeli